The Selfing Process Series – Grooming and Cosmetics – Step 4 of 5

Beholding a well-groomed individual is quite pleasing to my spirit. My eyes begin to twinkle and sparkle and my lips curl upward, leaving me with a little burst of positive energy. Do you know that the measure of a well-groomed woman starts with how good her skin looks? Also, how good her skin looks goes beyond its surface. It’s true-how good your skin looks is an inner beauty being thing.

How are you being-on the inside? Having worked in the image, beauty and fashion industries all of my adult life, I’ve witnessed a lot of vanity…with me being right there in the middle. But, what’s important and lasting is inner beauty being; which always begins with you loving, liking and respecting yourself first. The women who practice inner beauty being are IBBers-their beauty radiates from the inside out. They eat the proper foods; which are fueled by chemical substances called essential nutrients, such as: carbohydrates, fats, proteins, minerals, vitamins and water-these nutrients come from the proper and right food sources. So, eating right will help you to reproduce, build, and repair body tissue and to regenerate new skin cells-and we love that.

Water is the most important essential nutrient. It’s an elixir within itself-the fountain of youth. Every cell in your body needs water for optimal health, including your skin cells. You could survive for weeks, perhaps even months, without food but you could only last about eight to ten days without water.

Water circulates through your blood transporting oxygen and nutrients to your cells. It helps to maintain the body’s natural balance. It has no caloric value, though, and it is not a source of energy within itself. On the other hand, water promotes good digestion and it helps you to absorb the right nutrients from the foods that you eat. It removes your body’s waste through urine and sweat and it eliminates digestive waste. It’s so good for you!

Your body is made up of about sixty-five percent water and on most days you’ll need to drink at least eight to ten cups of water to replenish what you’ve lost during the day. Water can be replenished also by drinking other decaffeinated and non-alcoholic liquids and by eating fresh fruits and vegetables. Getting your fair share of water will cleanse and flush out impurities that clog your pores and diminish your natural beauty. It will help to promote a more supple and youthful complexion. Next time you’re dying of thirst, quench it with water.

IBBers believe in herbs and supplements and know that they are essential to their well-being and longevity. They participate in fun, natural and exhilarating activities that encourage them to breathe deeply, giving their body a good cardiovascular workout while rejuvenating their spirit. The breathing that comes from moving your body through fun physical activities is deep, simple, smooth, and strong. This type of breathing will help you to feel more youthful and energetic while at the same time helping you to relax and focus. It will build your heart muscle and clear the clutter from your mind and spirit.

IBBers laugh a lot too-for the fun of it and for the health benefits derived from a good belly laugh. According to Proverbs 17:22, “A joyful heart is the health of the body.” Take the time to have fun and laugh. It is not a luxury, like so many of us believe, but just what the doctor ordered. If you’re sick, it might make you well. If you’re sad it might make you happy. Go on, girl, try it out loud… laugh!

IBBers also know the intrinsic value of friendships with other IBBers and living their lives full out, regardless of where they live, how much money they earn, married or single. They love being with other people and being alone. And most importantly, IBBers honor the essence of who they are through quiet time, inner reflection and meditation-a sure and proven way to rejuvenate your body, mind and spirit. Daily meditation can help you get rid of toxins and clear the cobwebs that may have entered your essence, trying to block your natural flow. Meditation will encourage you to relax and to release, allowing you to hear the soft whispered words that are just for you. Consider this: the next time you’re getting ready think about the selfing process and its grooming layer to see how you’re doing with your inner health.

Okay, you now know that the foundation of grooming begins with good skin and a glowing complexion-which is a direct reflection of your inner health and well-being. You also know that paying attention to what goes into your mouth and what’s inside your body is key. No amount of topical creams, ointments and serums can be effective when you’re covering up for years of neglect.

Color Clash – Hair Color and Cosmetics

Have you ever returned home from the salon after you changed your hair color and thought, “This is totally wrong. This color doesn’t work for me!”? Chances are that your new hair color is gorgeous but you are still wearing the same make-up! As odd as it sounds, the shades of cosmetics you wear can make or break a new hair color. If you are changing your hair color don’t forget to change your make-up too!

Why Changing Makeup with Hair Color is so Important

When you change your hair color your whole appearance changes. The new shade can make your skin and eyes look more pale or more intense. Your new locks can bring out hidden undertones in your skin and new dimensions to your eyes. New hair color can also make you look younger and more confident, but if you continue to wear the same make-up then you can also look a little odd. This clash of colors comes down to color theory. The lipstick that might have looked fabulous on you as a blond now can look decidedly odd with your new red locks. Why? Because the new hair color and cosmetic undertones clash.

The color of our hair really does affect our overall appearance and so when you change it, it is essential to change everything else too from the clothes you wear to your make-up. This allows you to give a better balance to the face and it also finishes off the overall new look. The wrong cosmetic colors can make your look go from pale to dull to downright clownish.

How to Find New Makeup to Suit Your New Color

When it comes to finding new make-up to suit your new color, you may have trouble knowing what to opt for. Though you might not want to overhaul your make-up bag, you should seriously consider adding a few key colors to complement your dramatically changed hair color. The right make-up to compliment your hair color and skin tone with help you get the most out of that expensive dye job!

You should look at a number of factors first in order to choose the right colors for you. Some of these factors include hair color, eye color, and skin tone. Still confused? If you need guidance to get the most out of your new hair color ask the stylist that is dying your hair to suggest cosmetic shades that will fit your skin tone and match your new mane. Often times your salon will have a cosmetic line on hand and can do a mini make-over to demonstrate the power of the correct colors. If your stylist is of little help go to visit your local department store’s cosmetic counter or just pop on-line and ask the Beauty Advisor at your favourite cosmetic website for guidance and shade suggestions.

Overall cosmetics should be chosen with various things in mind. When you change your hair color your make-up should definitely be changed too. So the next time you color your hair, take these tips into consideration to get the most out of your new look.

Perfume and Cosmetics – A Serious Addiction

As a woman, I think I am addicted to perfume and cosmetics. I don’t think there is a woman out there who doesn’t own a tube of lipstick or mascara. I think at my thirteenth birthday party I hired a beautician to do my and my friends’ makeup. Since that day forward, I have had this small addiction to buy new beauty products every so often, let’s say on average every six months. I wonder if it is a socialized thing or women inherently want to look beautiful.

When I go into a department store, or Sephora, for example, I have this urge to try on as many cosmetics that I see. It is fun to experiment. Sometimes I’m in more of an eye mood, where I’ll want to try on every single color eye shadow I see. And sometimes it’s all about the lips. I will experiment with different shades of lipstick and lip gloss. Sometimes it does seem silly though, that there are so many different types of the same cosmetic out there. For example, you can find eye shadow in a powder, stick, or gel form. It is all the same thing, right? People are trying to come up with more unique ways to sell makeup.

It is also fun to try on new perfumes. You may need one kind of perfume for a date, another for a business meeting, and yet another for just every day use. Sometimes women just want to smell beautiful, and not necessarily to try to attract a man. In fact, I don’t really think the real reason women want to look beautiful is for men. It is for themselves. And for the greater competition against other women.

I think there is a sort of pressure on women and competition amongst them to look beautiful. Even to the point that people are willing to make themselves look more beautiful for their whole lives with cosmetic surgery. I wonder why someone would go to such great lengths to make their eyebrows one centimeter higher than their eyelid. I think Hollywood has a lot to do with this. It started out with just celebrities going to get face lifts and nose jobs, and now it is not so uncommon among the rest of the population.

I think girls do grow up wanting to look pretty. Take for example a little girl playing with two dolls. One of the dolls is just average looking, the other more pretty in appearance. The girl will most likely like the prettier doll better. Is this something innate or learned from society? We grow up watching our mothers put on makeup and movie stars with their newest fashions. We want to be like them. We want to look feminine.

While I would never go get a face lift or nose job, I am just fine with continuing to buy the next Mac or Clinique product out there. But next time you buy your own cosmetic, the thought might occur to you, am I buying this out of an addiction, to look beautiful for myself, or someone else?